Wedding gift from hell or bridezilla?

So I know first hand the perils of planning a wedding. who to invite... Who will be offended they didn't get an invite but so and so did... What the mother in law should (or shouldn't!) be wearing. It's a minefield of social disasters waiting to happen. And then there's the delicate subject of gifts. In days gone by, people would buy the newly weds homewares for their first house together. These days that's pretty out dated as most of us will have been shacked up together living in sin for a few years by the time we get engaged! So money is usually the preferred wedding present. Especially in Chinese culture, the couple expect to receive red envelopes of money from each guest, at least enough to cover their meal. BUT I know I certainly didn't expect everyone to give money (we did put a little poem in the wedding invites saying money would be preferred as we have a home together already!) and if they did, the amount didn't matter. Not everyone is loaded these days and any small token, be it £20 in an envelope, or a nice picture frame, is generous enough. At the end of the day, you've invited them to celebrate the declaration of your love, not to try and squeeze as much cash out of them as possible!

So when I read this article, I was amazed... Ok yes it costs a lot to host a wedding, but texting your guests to complain they gave you a gift instead of cash?! Wow... ok the hamper may not be to everyone's tastes, but how rude and presumptuous of the bride to berate the guests for eating the wedding breakfast and not giving enough money to cover what they consumed! Tacky, rude and nasty! Have a read for yourselves. What your opinion? Who's on the wrong?

http://m.thestar.com/#!/life/redirect/ba617e4adc2396e328566f560d93e162